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Health,  Sex

Is India sex toy ready?

India has been a land of diversified culture, rituals and customs. The Indian literature talks about the art of making love in the book of “KAMASUTRA”, still it is considered a taboo to talk about ‘sex’. KAMASUTRA, the book of love talks about the techniques of seduction and ways of making love yet the basic education system lacks sex education.

kamasutra

Source – (Libris, 2010)

It will not surprise you that the sale of sex toys in India is banned and thus many online stores sell it with discreet packaging. According to TOI, the online sex toy sales in India doubled this week on the special occasion of Valentine’s Day. What came to me as a surprise is that, Gujarat is the third largest buyer of these toys. The sale of such toys rises during the wedding season i.e., in the month of November and lasts till February. Gifting chocolates, teddy bears, and flowers is now an obsolete idea for Gujarati’s. Well, to be fair, it is now a passe for the young generation. The kinky idea behind using these sex toys is getting popular day by day, as people are giving up their shy nature (in the bedroom at least!). (TOI, 2017)

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Source – (engineeringclicks, n.d.)

Bondage

Source – (mystudentstyle, 2014)

Sexual desires are natural among youngsters and older age groups as well, but the problem remains with the people not opening up about their needs. Hardly, we see Indian parents talking to their children about sex and issues related to it or educating them. Can you imagine, people buying sex toys and hiding them in the dark places of their room? What if your mum finds it? Ohh my god! You were supposed to preserve your virginity and not indulge in sexual acts until you get married.

Samir Saraiya, CEO of Thatpersonal.com told Times of India that average value of such purchases is around INR4500 during wedding season. The sales spikes three times in the month of December and January which makes it very much clear that people do want to experiment with their sexuality. The bedroom partners are trying the naughtier and kinkier sides of sex to keep their sex lives spiced up.

Surprisingly, 360% sales increase during the festival of Navratri as revealed by Federation of Gujarat State Chemists and Druggists Association (FGSCDA). Not only adult toys, the list includes condoms, morning after pills and contraceptives also. Infact, 65% of queries about these items are from smaller towns of Gujarat which includes Tier-II and Tier-III cities. The younger couples want to reinvent their intimate experiences, which is often more safer than having casual sex.

A common question arises in everyone’s mind and that it “are there shoppers more men or women”. I am more than happy to reveal that, 41% of these shoppers are female and 59% are male, which makes it crystal clear that women are also open about their sexuality. It is often believed that sex is only a man’s desire in and out of the bedroom, and I so desperately want to prove that wrong. Women want it as much as men do, but wearing short clothes doesn’t mean they want it then and there. So please, do not take it otherwise! (TOI, 2016)

With second largest population, we still feel the need to hide our secret fantasies, in order to remain in the good books of our society.

Dr Mahinder Watsa, who has been an expert on this topic since 1956, very boldly and assertively said that “There will always be moral busybodies who will make it their business to preserve India’s cultural and moral fibre. Fortunately, I’m too old for anyone to do more than file an FIR.” (Kokra, 2017) Lack of awareness, often leads to people getting offended by such statements. Yes, we live in a society where men sell women’s lingerie and at that time society never protests. Infact, few older women consider it wrong to wear colourful and designer lingerie before marriage. Please! Women do not wear a piece of designer lingerie because they are dying to seduce a man. It’s more than that, lingerie not only makes a woman confident about her appearance but also defines her identity.

Why did we not think it in this way?

It is extremely sad to see that so many women in India get targeted to forcibly fulfil a man’s sexual desire. Isn’t it a good idea to be open about the subject and promote such toys which will save these women from being sexually abused every day? Sex is a need, so why not fulfil it with these safer options. We want to preserve our culture as Indians, but we don’t want to look for better alternatives which will actually pull down the number of these crimes. Infidelity, is also an issue which can be brought down by promotion of these toys. Think about it and spare the vegetables!

Bondage

Source – (newhealthadvisor, n.d.)

It is very important to understand that non availability of such products often lead the way to the darker side. Many women might get injured while pleasuring themselves with a carrot or banana. Many cases have been reported previously, where women have hurt themselves physically as well as emotionally. These things are not safe to use, and I believe it’s not a good idea to use the food we eat in such a way. Many people are still dying of starvation!

References

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Kokra, S., 2017. What India Is Asking Its Most Popular Sexpert, Dr Mahinder Watsa. [Online]
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Libris, V., 2010. Kama Sutra: sex tip book or philosophical treatise?. [Online]
Available at: https://vulpeslibris.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/kamasutra.jpg
[Accessed 16 February 2016].

mystudentstyle, 2014. Spicing it up on Valentine’s Day with Ann Summers!. [Online]
Available at: http://www.mystudentstyle.co.uk/spicing-it-up-on-valentines-day-with-ann-summers/
[Accessed 10 January 2017].

newhealthadvisor, n.d. [Online]
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[Accessed 16 February 2017].

TOI, 2016. Sex toys are the flavour of this wedding season. [Online]
Available at: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/love-sex/Sex-toys-are-the-flavour-of-this-wedding-season/articleshow/55223854.cms
[Accessed 16 February 2017].

TOI, 2017. Naughty gifts on Valentine’s Day. [Online]
Available at: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/ahmedabad/naughty-gifts-on-valentines-day/articleshow/57134935.cms
[Accessed 16 February 2017].

 

 

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